Divorce mediation: saving with solutions

Written on April 3, 2011 by admin

CBS Money Watch offer’s Jane Bryant Quinn “10 Steps” for saving your assets in a divorce settlement.

Jane Bryant Quinn writes (excerpt):
10. Put $$$ in your pocket by avoiding a battle with your spouse. In hard times, divorcing couples struggle for every dime. But the more you fight, the more of those dimes vanish in lawyer’s fees. If there are no children and few assets, you can usually do the divorce yourselves, even if you’re only speaking by email. Otherwise, try to reach a preliminary agreement before a lawyer comes into the picture. Consider a divorce mediation professional, or a collaborative divorce where couples and their lawyers agree in advance to bargain instead of going to court. . . .

On the benefits of divorce mediation

Written on March 5, 2010 by admin

YS Mediation highlights the benefits of divorce mediation (excerpt):
Couples have the opportunity to let go of the old way of handling marital separation and divorce by embracing mediation, which is a simple and cost effective way to handle the division of your assets while maintaining good will with everyone involved. Divorce mediation is the solution to conflict resolution. Selecting a divorce mediation lawyer provides improved relationships between children and both parents. Mediation saves both parties significant amounts of money and valuable time while providing you a private and safe environment to work through your differences logically and effectively.

What happens if a collaborative divorce stalls? Turn to mediation

Written on October 7, 2009 by admin

ABA Book Briefs Blog features a divorce mediation excerpt from the book “Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation,” Second Edition by Pauline H. Tesler (excerpt):
If a collaborative case runs into problems, a “meta-mediator” can help everyone get through the challenging phase. Sometimes a “perfect storm” of challenging clients and challenging issues can stall a collaborative negotiation. If a mediator who understands the collaborative process is brought in to bear responsibility for managing the negotiating session, the lawyers can be free to work more intensively with their respective clients. And a third conflict-resolution professional in the room can sometimes help undo logjams in creative problem solving.

You keep the power and pay less: how to lower the costs of divorce through mediation

Written on June 24, 2009 by admin

Smart Money declares the top 5 divorce mistakes and highlights divorce mediation in the process.

Stacey L. Bradford writes (excerpt):
4. Rushing to Court
The fastest way to run up those hourly attorney fees is to go to court. While a regular divorce costs around $8,000, one that goes to trial can easily run upwards of $20,000, says Emily Doskow, author of “Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce.” Unless you have a very complicated divorce, the vast majority of couples are better off reaching a settlement through their lawyers.

Divorce mediation, in which a neutral third party helps a couple negotiate an agreement, is an even cheaper alternative for folks who can still bare to sit at the same table. Doskow estimates it costs about half as much as a contested divorce. But the expense isn’t the only reason she’s a proponent. “I like mediation because it keeps the decision making with the people who are most invested in it,” she says.

A civilized divorce: divorce mediation and working together

Written on May 4, 2009 by admin

myOptumHealth.com and KOTV show how divorcing couples use mediation to process a civilized divorce.

Lila Havens writes (excerpt):
In mediation, the couple works to reach an agreement both people think is fair. The mediator acts as a go-between to help them communicate. The couple makes the decisions, so they are more likely to stick with them. Having an agreement beforehand helps the court process go faster and smoother. It’s also more private and comfortable.

Mediation almost always costs much less than traditional divorce. Estimates put the cost of mediation around $3,000. A traditional divorce often costs many times that much.

Divorce Grand Rapids

Written on August 23, 2008 by admin

The Sarnacki Law Firm is respected for its honest advice, creative solutions and effective advocacy. The two key components for the firm’s success are:
* Legal Ability: our expertise, the nature of our practice and our specialized qualifications.
* Standards of Conduct: our adherence to ethics, reliability, diligence and standards of professional conduct.

David C. Sarnacki has been selected as one of the best lawyers in Grand Rapids and West Michigan. He is the only person to have served as the leader of three of the State Bar’s largest specialty groups: Litigation Section, Law Practice Management Section and Family Law Section. Mr. Sarnacki has been selected as one of the Best Lawyers in America (top 2.4% in country), designated a Michigan Super Lawyer (top 5%), accepted as a Fellow in Michigan State Bar Foundation (limited to 5% of Michigan attorneys), awarded Martindale-Hubbell’s AV Rating (top 11% in nation), and cited as an authority by United States Supreme Court.

Trained as a trial attorney, mediator and collaborative divorce attorney, Mr. Sarnacki has served on the faculties of the National Institute of Trial Advocacy/Hofstra University School of Law, United States Attorney General’s Advocacy Institute, Davenport University, and the Institute of Continuing Legal Education.

How divorce mediation promotes parenting

Written on August 12, 2008 by admin

The Wall Street Journal shows the benefits of divorce mediation, leapfrogging from the news that Robin Williams and his wife, Marcia Garces Williams, were divorcing.

Stephanie Coontz writes (excerpt):
There is ample evidence that we can increase the incidence of “good” divorces. In a 12-year follow-up of couples randomly assigned to either mediation or litigated divorce, Robert Emery and his colleagues found that as little as five to six hours of mediation had powerful long-term effects. Parents who took part in mediation settled their disputes in half the time of parents who used litigation, and they were much more likely, even 12 years later, to jointly discuss children’s discipline, moral training, school performance and vacation plans. Nonresidential parents with mediated divorces maintained much more contact with their children than those who had litigated.

Divorce mediation: expensive, Christie Brinkley, public, Peter Cook, fighting, the kids

Written on July 15, 2008 by admin

Newsday shows how divorce mediation can “avoid the circus that you see in the Brinkley case” [involving Christie Brinkley and Peter Cook]. Divorce mediation–especially mediation of custody disputes–can control costs, maintain privacy, limit conflict, and promote relationships and shared goals.

Michael Rothfield and Melanie Lefkowitz write (excerpt):
“It puts a premium on digging up dirt on the other party,” [Hofstra University law professor Andrew Schepard] said. “It puts a premium on each side saying, ‘I am better than the other parent.’ That is how parents ‘win’ custody. What they should be saying is, ‘What are my children’s needs during this divorce?’”

Divorcing parents in mediation: finding strengths, mutual goals and a way to communicate

Written on July 9, 2008 by admin

The Grand Forks Herald reveals the appeal of divorce mediation.

Janell Cole writes (excerpt):
“Mediation can be successful because its focus is on the strengths each person has as a parent and on the joint goals and aspirations parents have for their children,” state Court Administrator Sally Holewa told a legislative committee June 24.
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In mediation, one of the goals is for parents to be taught how to resolve future disputes, Holewa said.

Can divorce mediation stop your divorce from getting nasty?

Written on June 9, 2008 by admin

The ABA Journal shows how divorce mediation tries “to take the nastiness out of divorce proceedings.”

Jill Schachner Chanen writes (excerpt):
Wider use of alternative dispute resolution is a key reason why more divorce cases are being resolved with less acrimony, say Hunt and other matrimonial lawyers.

“We feel that it has increased client satisfaction,” Chinn says. “We are resolving cases more quickly, for example, by moving immediately to a mediation date, practicing full disclosure, creating asset notebooks with the numbers and your position on them. It’s just to make it easy for the other side.”

Many jurisdictions now mandate mediation in divorce cases, especially where custody is at issue, Herman says. “In one of the counties that I practice in, there is an 80 percent success rate for [resolving] contested custody cases with mediation,” he says.